Kentucky Fried Kari

For those that have never seen the Small World Project, it is a way for me to highlight some of the amazing people I'm lucky enough to know and hopefully have some of the readers and people to meet one another. Post any comments about the person if you know them or feel free to ask them questions if you don't! Onward!

This was my first thanksgiving away from my family. The annual tradition is normally to get home on Wednesday from school and head to El Balazo and basically see every single person you've ever known. This is always both overwhelming and really awesome. You know how you have those people in your life that you could not speak to for years, and the minute you see one another, you get this deep excitement. They don't say, “Why haven't you called?” or some other sarcastic remark about being bad about keeping in touch. It's like nothing has changed. It makes your day. Well after this Thanksgiving in Chicago, I was driving home through the fall leaves and bumping a long lost country CD and started thinking about such a person. She's always been like a younger sibling to me and of all the people I know back home, she is one of the people that I have come to admire and be proud of the most. I wish everyone could meet one another but I shall do my best. My friends, I present the latest addition to the Small World Project, Kari!

The Hunter:
Kari and I grew up basically across the street from one another. Many a late night I would walk over and babble to Kari and her sister about my girl problems. I would come up with these dumb theories that they would just laugh hysterically at. I would pace around and try to work out the theories while they enjoyed the show. My favorite was the one about “the hunter.” You know when you are focused on hunting for a relationship you never seem to find one? But when you focus on letting yourself be attractive prey, people notice. Haha. Anyway, they laughed at me for a while and still bring it up sometimes. It meant a lot to me that they would listen to my nonsense and never judge me.

Walking Tall and Proud:
Growing up is a tough thing to do these days. Being a few years younger than me, I got to see Kari grow up into the beautiful person she is today. I also got to see her deal with the difficult things life throws at us and to be honest, I don't think I have ever heard her complain. Let at least complain the way you and I do. She's never been bitter about anything. She might complain for a second but always turns the complaint into a laugh and then shakes it off. I really really admire that about her. I wish I could be more like that sometimes. Even when our friends were being more dramatic than the chickidies on the Hills, Kari never let herself act like them. Badass!

The Honor:
Do people ever ask you what your greatest accomplishment is or what your biggest honor was in the past? In high school, Kari asked me to speak at an event and honestly, that was the greatest honor anyone has ever given to me in my life. When people ask me that question, that's what I still tell them.

Eatings:
Kari is one of the few people that will still a giant KFC bucket with lots of gravy, biscuits and mashed potatoes. DAMN THAT SOUNDS GOOD! Extra tasty crispy? or Original Recipe? I actually think that she only eats hot dogs, hamburgers and KFC. Maybe not the healthiest diet but hella fun for sure!

The Real World:
Our hometown sees lots of young folks aching to leave home only to see most of them return.I could name less than 10 that are not back in the area. There is tons of opportunity in the Bay and I don't blame any of them. When I was thinking about moving to Chicago, I thought about the few people that took the chance to leave home. Kari was one of them when she worked in DC for Senator Clinton. In a way, it was easier for me since my sister was in New York but for Kari, all of her family is still in the Bay (and most of her friends I think). But she took the risk and I think it changed her life. I keep telling her that she should not conform and push herself as much as possible. She's got some talent, let me tell you.

Her Affect on Me (and others):
Over the years, I have come to question myself a lot (about careers and life in general). Kari is always one of those people that reminds me of what I can actually do. Just her being around. She doesn't even really need to say anything to me. I don't think it's any coincidence that her friends hold her close and people tend to be drawn to her. She has this positive influence on all the people around her and the glowing smile to boot. She has a goodness about her that you just don't see in people that much anymore. At one point in college, I hadn't talked to her in years and she called me to ask for advice about which college to go to. I was seriously touched that she thought of me. She just always reminds me that I should push myself to do ridiculous things.

Over the years, I have been bummed about my lack of communication with Kari but fortunately for us both we can run into each other anywhere and it's like things haven't changed one bit. Here's to you Kari! You deserve to be a princess like every princess you love in those Disney Movies. Kentucky Fried Chicken and Biscuits for EVERYONE! Pour some gravy out girl!

The Jungle Book

It's been awhile since another citizen has been added to the Small World but that's because I have trouble figuring out exactly what I want to say about each person. I should just make the entries shorter and hope people enjoy posting comments more and more. I think stories are a great way to learn about someone's character. Anyway........

You know when people just have something special about them? Like they're almost magical and you wonder how they could actually be like that? Well this week's citizen is one of those people. See we're all made up of something like 98% water and a whole bunch of other chemicals and blah blah blah right? Well I swear this girl is made up of only rainbows, puppy dogs, hello kitty stationary and childrens' smiles (maybe candy too, I'm not sure). There's really only one person that could mean. Yep, the Sagers.

Sage rocks because she just exudes this love for everything around her! It's like being near her makes you feel better about things going on in your life, which is pretty amazing (those that know her know what I'm talking about!). Over the years I've lived in a dorm with Sage, lived across campus from Sage and then lived in the same house with Sage and a bunch of other people. Even after all that time spent with her, I wish I had made more time to kick it with her. She's one of those people that you would be down to travel long and far just to spend a few minutes with.

Sage is living in New York right now and when I come out there during the summer I hope all you other folks that are there get to meet her.

Since moving I've been thinking a lot about the people that mean a lot to me that I've done such a bad job of keeping in touch with and Sage is a great example. When we see each other it's like nothing has changed but it just reminds me that I need to be better about staying in touch with folks that are important to me.

I could write more about Blue Planet Marathons or Soupoffs or a whole lot more but I'm hoping some of you readers will offer some of your favorite Sage stories! Tell the (Small) World about her!

Here are a couple of my favorite throwback stories:

Sunshine Anderson:
Now it's no secret that over the years BA and I have wrecked some dance floors all over the place but when Ben wasn't around Sage and I basically served everyone around us. The song that still reminds me of freshman year and getting jiggy with all the people is Sunshine Anderson's "Heard it all Before." Sage, Bearman and I were also seen numerous times busting out with the "white boy wiggle" in a timely fashion.

151 and Coke:
Many, many 151 nights in college. Most ended with Rones falling asleep in his window seal but one tradition that I always looked forward to was walking over to wherever Sage and the other girls lived on the last day of school and throwing back rum and cokes all afternoon in the warm sun. I also remember an amazing meteor shower we all watched on the roof of Roth that was just plain ridiculous.

Sister Sister:
I guess sometimes I notice strange things that other people don't. One of my favorite things about Sage is the way she talks about her brother. Her face gets all excited and you can tell she absolutely adores him (and what's not to adore, he's dope). Totally reminds me of my sisters when she does that.

Sage is definitely one of those people that I wish all my homies could meet but alas that's the purpose of the Small World Project. So those that know her, spread the word about her on here!

Not living large... he's the Biggest

First off, thanks to those that sent me emails or messages about their interest in the Small World Project! Please feel free to post stories, comments and questions about the Small World Citizen of the Week! That's what this "world" is all about. Bringing YOU ALL together.
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Now on to this week's citizen....
Do you have someone in your life that is hard to describe? You know that they're a special person but when people ask you what they're like, you can't find the right words? When people talk about athletes, we often talk about the intangibles that someone might bring to their game. They're not the flashiest player on the court but they bring something to the players around them that no one else could. So why don't we think about these same intangibles when we're talking about the people in our lives? This week's special human has impacted so many people around him and amazingly he probably doesn't even realize the importance he has played. The people around him are all better off today because of the positive influence he has had on them. This man is larger than life..... in fact he's the Biggest. I'm talking about Vijay. (I thought it would be funny to post a serious picture of him, since he's always smiling)

Now Big V and I go way back. When we were super young I didn't spend so much time with him because he was a few years older than me. When we has in middle school, I was in elementary school and when he was in high school, I was in middle school. For the longest time I had trouble connecting with this dude. My main interaction with him would be at family parties where him and other older kids would go outside and cause trouble. I had no idea what they did when they went outside until one night where they told me to join them. They were going to light a bunch of leaves and branches on fire in the street. I was super scared so I went to ask my mom if I could go. Like any other kid I said, "Mom, I can't go outside with them right?" Fast forward over a decade later and not only would I go anywhere with this dude but he is also one of the people I miss the most in the Bay. Big V brings so much to the people around him that I just think of him as the master of the intangibles.

Credits:
In the Small World, all people are interconnected. We were at a party at BA's place one night (the picture above is from the same night!) and Big V became obsessed with a blow up monkey at the house. He made it his mission for the night to steal the monkey. He snuck around the party with the monkey. He even tried to walk out of the front door with it I think. Anyway, everything seemed to fail. As we walked out of the party he began to laugh uncontrollably. Alas, in the bushes like 4 blocks away from the party, he had stashed the monkey! He was so proud and it was one of the funniest things I've seen in a long time.
8th and Ocean: One night a bunch of us sat through basically every childhood variety show we had been in. We sat through ridiculous violin performances and dances where some of us had our pants up to our necks. Oh but Big Big, goodness. Dude was wearing Polo sweaters and creased khaki pants in every show. His hair was clean cut and he was straight pimping in his dockers.
Happy Birthday: I've always felt pretty fortunate that my birthday is January 1st because it's easy for people to remember. Over the last maybe five or six years, I have spent a few memorable New Years with this guy but it's the ones that I didn't spend with him that stand out. One year he was in Dallas and another year he was in Egypt. Other years he was who knows where but for every single one of those, he has been the first person to call me EVERY year. It's almost like I just wait for him to call and that makes my birthday real. Even when he was floating down the Nile River on a cruise, he called me a few seconds into the new year. How do you even do that math? Weirdo. It's remembering the small things that makes Biggest a really different person.
The Manager: Do you know that Vijay has time to workout, work on side projects, have hobbies, go out on the weekends and watch every TV show he wants? I am always baffled by Big V's ability to balance his time so well. Maybe he's a vampire?
The Chatter: About two years ago, in a hotel room in Chicago, we had the idea to create an online community for Konkani (the Indian cultural group we're both a part) youth around the world. For those that know me well, I am always yapping about this and that. No one really takes me seriously. Well, Big Big acted right away and setup a message board that now has over 500 members and over 15,000 posts. While others talk, he's getting things done.

I've had conversations with some of you about how people cannot truly be selfless. Well, if that's true this guy is probably the closest I've ever seen. I could go on and on about this guy. I could talk about how he's woken up and cleaned up for everyone after basically every party we've thrown or about how he loaned out his car to a friend in neeofd but I would rather have some of you share your stories, comments, or questions for the one they lovingly call Big V.

The Poppin' and Lockin' Puppet Master

It's taken me a long time to think about the right person to start this whole Small World Project off with. The impetus to write such a crazy thing was to bring together the different groups of people I have in my life. For the people around me to get to know one another, since unfortunately most of you won't ever hang out with one another. Within the last couple years though, one person has actually gotten to know all my groups of friends and through that shown me that all of them can mix really well. Anyway without further ado, ladies and gentlemen, the first person I'd like to marinate is none other than BA aka Ben.

In high school, I basically lived two lives. In class I was pretty serious and when I was at home or with my friends, I was super goofy. I didn't really think I would ever be able to reconcile my two personalities. I arrived at my dorm and immediately noticed one of the RAs that was goofy as hell. The first few weeks of school, he basically wore the same lime green sweater and dark horn-rimmed glasses. This seemingly simple dude, would go on to show me (and a lot of other people) that you can be true to yourself in any situation. No matter who was around him, he was always the same person. I feel like a lot of times we think about how others want us to act or about how we're going to be perceived. This guy doesn't care about any of that.

Those that know BA, also know that his sense of humor has rubbed off on everyone around him. A lot of peoples' mannerisms and humorous stylings are definitely things that have rubbed off from him. After college, he stuck around for a while then moved out to San Francisco. For those that have ever been to a party at BA's old place know that he was living in a super nice place. When I first went over to his place, I saw that he had an elevator, a bathroom bigger than my room, and a movie theater in his house but then I went in his closet and what did I spy....... NOTHING. Just the same lime green sweater and a Mariners jersey. He hadn't changed at all. About a year ago when I was living in San Francisco, we dance battled the entire night in my kitchen. Song after song we battled like we were two great warriors. Needless to say the kitchen floor was ruined but the walls saw moves only future humans would even be able to describe.

So since this is the first entry, I'm not sure what to do with it. Perhaps people that know BA can rag on him here? People can agree or disagree with what I've said or add more comments or stories about BA. People could post questions for BA to answer. The ultimate goal here is to inform people about some other awesome folks I guess. Anyway, below are some claims to fame.

Credits:

We're Number 1: While waiting in line for a Stanford basketball game, BA once told us all that if you pull the chest of your shirt in and out with your left hand and throw up a number one sign with your right hand, you're guaranteed to get on TV. During that game, we threw up the “We're Number 1” shuffle and must have been on TV 10 times. Ever since then the Number 1 dance has been seen on freeways, in the hottest dance clubs, and of course during college basketball games.

Secret Sauce: We once marinated tri-tip over night in a paint bucket. People thought we were crazy until they smelt perhaps the finest marinade ever concocted with human hands. Did we share? Just enough to let them know what they were missing.

The Poppin' and Lockin' Marionette: you ever seen someone in the club manipulate their feet as if they were the puppet master on their own legs? You think I invented that shit? Some people even asked him if his legs were made out of rubber.

Mangina: It's a little known fact that BA, Taplin Thomas and I were a part of a popular underground acapella group on the Stanford campus. We were so underground in fact that most people deny we even existed. We went by “Mangina” for we were the ultimate balance of street credibility and emotion. During a “Mangina” concert in 2000, the entire audience was crying and the show had to be stopped. It was at that point that we knew, we were way ahead of our time and the people were not ready for us (when we came together, it was similar to when those five kids summoned Captain Planet).

Legend has it that one LIVE “Mangina” concert exists on someone's laptop somewhere in North America. Those few that saw us live have never been the same, I would know, I was there.

Being an RA, being a mentor to a lot of people, and at home being an older brother, Ben's a pretty dope guy. Hopefully some of you get to meet him at some point.

One At a Time

As I get older, I feel like uniting the world is getting increasingly difficult. I consider myself a rather driven person (as are most of you) and I think our minds get ahead us sometimes. There's a proverb that says something to the affect of: "If you want to make change in the world, make change in front of your house." Well, I wanted to take that even closer to the individual. The idea here is that I want to "Unite My World." What is my world you ask? Well, it's my family, my friends, my interests, basically all the things that make up ME!

I'm glad you don't understand what I'm talking about. We all have special people in our lives. Well I am tired of them not knowing one another. I don't want disparate groups of friends. I don't want people not knowing my family. I want to "Unite My World." So what if you could introduce your college friends to your high school friends? What if you could Arch in Eastern Canada to Remi in Normandy, France? What if they became lifelong friends? What if they became life long business partners? Well I'm going for it. I may be a slow process but I'm trying to "Unite My World."

Here's what's been on my mind lately. I am fortunate enough to know some awesome folks. Many of them have some amazing interests and some of them have done some amazing things. We don't get the chance to talk about ourselves enough and many of you are super humble too.
But it's not just an opportunity to make people I know blush, it's a way to get them known. To tell the world what they're all about.

Think about it. Rones spends his time after work promoting his brother 1865 to the Bay and I know Tunde has already sparked a movement in the Bay so maybe Ao could promote Esface at his concerts and Tunde could advertise on his shirts. Speaking of shirts, Jay loves everything about Hip Hop culture and he might be down to design some shirts for Tunde. What about Swati? She's looking for a job soon and could design when she has time. Hegyi doing a Flaco's fundraiser soon for FaceAids. Maybe the Konkani Cooking club would want to help him? My sister has been going to El Salvador a lot for medical volunteer work. If more wack Indian doctors my age heard about that would they do the same? Arch has some awesome music taste. Damn, I wish her, Rones and Vik could all exchange music. And what about Fatty Dave. He is working so hard to get into med school and someday he wants to do lots of service overseas. What if I put the trip together and got all the doctors I know to join?

So The Small World Project was born. The vision here is to highlight one person in my life a week. I might write different things about different people, who knows. At worst, all my readers will learn at least a little bit about my loved ones. At best, people will email me wanting to contact the person that week and maybe ask them about something that interested them.

Hopefully this is just the start and I can think of someway to create a better website or maybe even readers can send me profiles of people they want to highlight. Imagine that!

Without further ado, I present to you....... The Small World Project.